Kids Leaving Home? How to Banish Empty Nest Syndrome

Posted on May 17, 2017
Updated on August 20, 2020

Your kids will graduate from school, get married, move out, and start living their own life path. All of a sudden the house that was filled with laughter, arguments, and vitality is a bit too quiet. What do you do? Well, numerology can help you to banish empty nest syndrome. You just need to focus on your personal year number.

The personal year number works with your date of birth to help you to understand what life might throw at you for any particular year. Your personal year number changes every New Year’s Day. It’s easy to calculate, too, it’s based on your date of birth and the current year.

Start by taking your date of birth and adding the day of the month to the month itself. For example, if you were born on April 2nd, you’d add 4 (April is the fourth month of the year) and 2 together to get 6. To find out what 2017 has to bring to you, you’ll add 2 + 0 + 1 + 7 to get 10, which reduces down to get 1 + 0 = 1. 6 + 1 = 7, so 7 is your personal year number.

How does this influence you? A personal year brings you a snapshot of what to expect for any year of your life and gives you some hints as to what the themes are. It helps you to know what to expect, what kinds of choices to make, and whether your attention needs to be on relationships, career or finances, or something else entirely!

If you’re feeling the sting and loneliness after your kids have moved out is fairly normal, you have devoted so many years to raising them up. Read on to find out more about how understanding your personal year number can help you adjust and structure your life so you don’t feel thier absence so intensely.

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Personal Year 1

This is a time of new beginnings. It’s the start of a new 9-year cycle. The best way for you to cope with empty nest syndrome is to find a new activity that you like to do and to throw yourself into it. You’ve done a great job of parenting. Now is the year for you to rediscover who you are and what you enjoy.

Personal Year 2

Don’t do anything in a hurry this year. You may be tempted to make decisions based on emotional responses, but think them through. This is a time to let go of things that aren’t important, and get rid of unnecessary attachments. Your relationship with your kids may strengthen this year, even though they’re no longer under your roof.

Personal Year 3

If you’re in a year 3, you can banish empty nest syndrome by socializing. Reconnect with old friends, and make some new ones. This isn’t a time for deep attachment, so keep things light. If you’re creative, try immersing yourself into a new hobby. It could bring you the right kind of attention from the right kind of people.

Personal Year 4

This is a time of hard work! If you were waiting until the kids were grown before you advance your career, then this is a great time to push yourself. You’re unlikely to see instantaneous results, so you’ll have to cultivate patience and self-control. Yes, you’ll frequently feel like you’re not getting anywhere, but you’re laying the foundation for the future, so stick with it.

Personal Year 5

This is another year of change and challenge. Everything that you thought was certain seems to be shifting. Take that as confirmation that it’s time for something new, and focus on your social life and your creative talents to find it. Don’t lose sight of your long-term goals, though, because it will be easy to overstretch yourself, and be too superficial about things that are actually important.

Personal Year 6

Even though you’ve found yourself with empty nest syndrome, this personal year will add family responsibilities to you. You’ll find yourself giving more of your time and energy to others, and your own plans and goals may have to be suspended for awhile. Above all, don’t lose your peace of mind. This year is a labor of love, so find the love in it, and keep looking for the joy in all things.

Personal Year 7

This year brings introspection and mental activities. If you’ve been thinking about going back to school, learning a new skill, or exploring new philosophies, this is the year to do it. After last year’s hiatus, you can finally get back to the business of being you. It’s a year for looking at where you’ve gone wrong, focusing on what you’re doing right, and celebrating your authentic self.

Personal Year 8

Finances and investments are important in a personal year 8. Last year’s introspection showed you what was important and helped you to prioritize things. Now that you’ve got an empty nest, you can start to move towards those goals. You’ll find new determination this year. It’s a time for major decisions about your future, and any recognition you’ve earned in the past will come your way.

Personal Year 9

This is the last year in your personal year cycle, and it’s a time for conclusions and completions. You may feel that your job is finished, that your empty nest marks the ending of an era, and you’d be right! Now it’s time to sort out what you want to keep and carry into your next 9-year cycle, and what you need to release. This doesn’t have to be a negative process. See it as a time of preparation for what’s yet to come.


Your life can be incredibly rich and exciting, even though you don’t have your kids around as often anymore. If you calculate your personal year number and are mindful of the 9-year cycle, you can start to overcome the feelings of empty nest syndrome.

Refocus your life, re-evaluate your priorities, and reconnect with your spouse and your friends. You can start to do these things once the kids aren’t so dependent on you. Just make sure you don’t change your kid’s bedroom into a fitness area without telling them first!

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Hi! I’m Charla Stone and I learned astrology and mysticism way back in the 1970s. I’ve spent the last four decades using the stars, tarot, runes, crystals, totems, and more to… Learn More About The Author »

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