Why We Keep Attracting The Wrong Love Partners

Posted on April 29, 2015
Updated on July 03, 2020

There’s a reason we keep attracting the wrong people into our lives. It’s a subconscious internal battle between your spiritual/higher self and our hurt self.

The hurt self or ego is constantly looking for things that are familiar and things that it thinks will make it happy. Plus, if you have a wounded inner child (most of us do), that child will constantly seek out ways to heal those wounds.

But the problem is it doesn’t know how to heal them, so it seeks that which is familiar… pain.

Again be aware, this is all subconscious because consciously nobody wants pain.

Here’s what happens… If your ego or hurt self is controlling you on auto pilot, it’s guiding you into one bad relationship after another. Because your ego subconsciously is moving towards that which is familiar. Have you done this?

Does it seem you keep running the same relationship patterns that lead you to people who are wrong for you? This is precisely why.

The thing about the ego is, it always thinks that more of anything will equal more happiness. Because when it comes down to it, happiness is all we really want in the end. But the ego thinks it comes from more money, more stuff, more sex, better relationships, bigger cars, better houses.

And we all know that’s not true. Just look at all the celebrities and top 1% that appear to have it all, yet are miserable, depressed and addicted to alcohol and OxyContin who eventually wind up on Celebrity Rehab.

The reason why we have so many relationship problems is because the relationships we’ve had since birth have given us more emotional wounds than anything else combined. When you were a kid I’m sure there were times when your parents let you down. Or worse, maybe you were abused.

As an adult we’ve all had our hearts torn out from our chest by someone who we thought loved us. And of course with the divorce rate at 50%, that means millions of people are walking around hiding their hurt, yet subconsciously seeking more.

The key is, you have to come from your higher self to find the relationship of your dreams. We have to know that if what we really seek is happiness, it comes from the inside, not the outside.

And Happiness Is Only A Feeling Whose True Root Is Found In Love

If all your feelings come from within, then all we have to do is make a conscious effort to activate those feelings. And the best way to start is to simply love yourself first. Because if you don’t love yourself, you won’t have the capacity to love others. And, you won’t allow others to love you back.

Old wounds will surface, and this is good because you need to let them out. If you were in a horrible or even abusive relationship you need to let it go. Because if you don’t, you are giving power to that person and letting them dictate your emotions even though it ended a long time ago.

You’re letting past events seize control of your power to manifest a wonderful future. You’re letting your ego take over instead of your higher self which is pure love and light.

How do you let go? By forgiving yourself. Forgive yourself for holding on to past emotions that no longer serve you. And find reasons to be grateful for everything you have now.

Also take the time to understand those who you wish to be with on an intimate level and what makes them feel attraction. Once you understand how they tick, the chemistry between the two of you will seize to fizzle.

To sum it all up… Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Express gratitude.

And remember, you are loved. You are special. You are wanted. You are beautiful. You matter.

You are pure love just waiting to be unshackled and released from your ego’s grip. Release your higher self and watch the magical transformation begin!

Only when you love yourself you’ll be able to love others on a spiritual level and also on an intimate level.

And when we are loved on an intimate level, we tend to reciprocate that love back to our partner and also ourselves.

We’ve created a Free Guide that shows you the secrets to loving your partner (or future partner) based on their zodiac sign. You’ll even discover a few things about yourself you didn’t even know about. Grab your free copy here.

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