10 Things to Expect When Dating a Scorpio
If there’s one sign that can really confuse you, it’s certainly Scorpio! If you’re dating a Scorpio, you probably already know this! The good news is that you can use astrology to demystify the most mysterious sign of the zodiac.
If you’re dating a Scorpio, you have a lot of potential for a romantic partnership as long as you understand both their strengths and blind spots. Knowing how to navigate a relationship with a Scorpio is important because it’s very different than dating another sign. Their motivations, interests, and thoughts are almost entirely different than most people’s, which can be fascinating and intoxicating! One thing you’ll often notice when reading a Scorpio daily horoscope is that it often talks about passion which they have a lot of.
A Scorpio’s Passion is Reflected in their Dating Life
A Scorpio rarely does anything partially. They are an all-or-nothing type of personality. Most of the things they do are to the extreme, so when they date someone, they will often be consumed by the relationship. They will want to stay connected with their partner because they love intimacy and knowing how others think. They will ask about your feelings because they really want to know you on a deep level. If you’ve been in relationships where your partner didn’t want to talk about their feelings or yours, a relationship with a Scorpio will be quite different. They really want to go beneath the surface and expose the feelings that most people are afraid to talk about. For some people that can take some adjusting to, but it can be a very freeing type of relationship.
Characteristics & Traits of a Scorpio
A Scorpio has an investigative mind which means they ask a lot of questions and you can expect them to ask followup questions too. They listen intently and want to understand why things happen not just what happened. They are often interested in spiritual topics that relate to the nature of the soul, what happens after we die and how we came to be. They are known to struggle with their own ability to manipulate others which means you should only date a Scorpio who has done personal development work.
Because they understand people on a deep emotional level, they don’t have to try hard to get people to do what they want. That means they can easily manipulate people to get what they want and they must learn to exercise self-control with that ability so they don’t live selfishly or without paying attention to what is best for someone else. This is what we mean when we said they can have blind spots. If they can openly talk about who they used to be and how they have grown, that’s a good sign! But if you feel they are always trying to control you, that means they may not know their own tendencies yet and need time to mature.
10 Things to Expect When Dating a Scorpio
1. Scorpios Are Very Passionate
A Scorpio is usually first and foremost described as intense. They want to know everything about what they’re interested in, and even the way they speak has a sort of enthusiasm that is uniquely Scorpionic. They certainly tend to be attracted to dramatic topics that have to do with life or death, which can explain why they often become investigators or professors. Scorpios often become passionate artists as well. They dedicate themselves deeply to their work because they allow themselves to be consumed in what they do. However, don’t mistake their passion for weakness, the sign of the scorpion are strong and resilient people.
2. Don’t Try to Control a Scorpio
A Scorpio will always need to do what they feel compelled to do in their heart. As a Water sign, they are all emotion and almost zero logic, although they can excel in logic-based things if they find it appeals to their emotional side. They like to make the plan and hate going along with what other people tell them to do, which is why they often work better independently. Give them room to be themselves and don’t micromanage them in any regard.
3. Scorpios Always Win
Scorpios have a strong competitive side, which may come across as an alpha or dominant personality - but not always. Because they want to push for the extreme, they can become extremely competitive. Their determination and desire to achieve and excel can be a very positive attribute when it doesn’t turn into obsession.
4. Scorpios Love Touch
Scorpios’ senses and emotions fuel them, so they are very tactile people. Their love language is often physical touch and they are huggers for sure. They express their love physically more than any other sign and want you to be open and vulnerable so they can feel close to you. They are likely to be cuddlers and want to sit close to you or hold your hand. If you are someone that needs personal space and doesn’t want much physical intimacy, dating a Scorpio may be a bit of a challenge.
5. Intense Intimacy
Scorpios love intimacy of all kinds. They are going to notice how your feeling and ask about them. They want to know what makes you tick and what moves you. They will ask you your deepest fears and try to help you through difficult times. Keep things on your terms and set healthy boundaries you’re both comfortable with. Scorpios appreciate honesty, so let them know what you are comfortable with. If you want a sappy romantic partner, they might just fit the bill.
6. Scorpios Love to Flirt
Scorpio can be quite flirtatious because they get to know people through their emotions. Be aware that when it seems like a Scorpio is flirting with you, they just aren’t afraid to talk to people about touchy subjects, how they are feeling, and what gives them pleasure. What may seem like an inappropriate conversation to you may feel perfectly normal to them. They are usually comfortable talking about things openly with people and want other people to acknowledge their desires so they can be happy. Knowing this ahead of time can help you understand how they interact with others.
7. Scorpios Need Control
A Scorpio will gladly take the lead in any way they can, whether it’s ordering your meal at a restaurant, planning a trip, or anything else for that manner. The reason they tend to gravitate towards jobs where they can be independent is because they loathe someone else telling them what to do. They have so much energy that planning and leading comes easily to them. If they get too bossy or you allow them to always get their way, they may not realize it, so it’s important that you communicate what is important to you and not be too passive or you’ll end up resenting the relationship.
8. They’re Intrigued by Darkness
Scorpios love to look into the darker aspects of life to understand them and to know how to solve major problems in society. They want to help and they want to do by tackling heavy subject matters. They will go where the faint of heart dare not in a conversation but they desire to find solutions to the destruction and pain on the planet by facing it. They find it comforting to constantly face their fear of death and need to constantly face their own darkness to keep it in check and continue learning from it.
9. Brutal Honesty
Scorpios are known for their directness and for saying what they mean. They expect others to be honest with them and can sense when they are not. They feel safe when people say how they feel, even if it’s complicated. Depending on the Moon sign, Scorpios can be very forthcoming about their feelings, but even if they’re a strong and silent type, you’ll always know how a Scorpio is feeling. They aren’t afraid of what others think.
10. Ferocious Loyalty
Often consumed with wanting to help those they love, Scorpios usually only keep a few best friends and their family close to them. They are loyal in that they would give anything and everything for those they love and you need to help them learn when they are giving too much so they don’t get drained. They want the people they love to be happy and they often get lost in loving others to the point that they themselves suffer. They’re protective and keep friends for a long time. They often overlook the flaws of others when they love them too because their emotional bonds are deep.
The Most Compatible Signs with Scorpios
The signs a Scorpio is most compatible with include Pisces, Capricorn, Cancer, and Virgo. Pisces and Cancer are fellow Water signs, and they can get into long conversations easily. When they date, they find they have a lot in common because they are intuitive, like art, and like to talk about emotions. The loyalty of Virgos and Capricorns appeal to Scorpios as well. While Virgos and Capricorns may not be quite as open with their feelings, they are usually smart, which appeals to the intellectual side of the Scorpio.
If you aren’t one of the above signs, don’t get discouraged. Astrology is meant to help you get to know others and yourself so you can get along with anyone and so you can know yourself better. If you want to know what your Scorpio partner may be feeling on a given day, look at a Scorpio daily horoscope and see how well it fits their behaviour each day to get to know them better!
Also, if your Scorpio doesn’t act like most Scorpios, take a look at their birth chart. If they have a lot of another sign or element in their chart it may overshadow their Sun sign. Their Moon sign, which represents emotional needs, may be more prevalent in their personality, or perhaps their Rising sign is a better indicator. To look up a birth chart, you need their time, location, and date of birth. We encourage you to peruse your partner’s birth chart either way to understand them on a deeper level.
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