How To Win an Argument Based on Your Zodiac Sign

Posted on May 30, 2017

Have you ever noticed how some people go out of their way to avoid confrontation, while others seem to get a kick out of stirring things up? Everyone responds to conflict in a different way. Some stand their ground and do everything they can to win the argument—even when they’re wrong! Others will back down, even when they know they’re right, just to keep the peace.

Your astrology chart actually reveals a lot about how to fight fair—or whether it’s even in your nature to do so! I always tell people to examine three factors of your element or your zodiac sign when you’re trying to understand how you come across to other people, and how they mesh with you.

Obviously, you look at your Sun sign, because this is who you are at your core. The Sun indicates your core self, your overarching personality and that’s why there’s so much emphasis placed on it when interpreting your birth chart.

Another factor that needs your close attention is the rising sign, because this is how you present yourself to other people. It’s the first impression that you give, the mask that you show the general public. There’s a lot that your rising sign can reveal, especially when it comes to confrontation!

Finally, it’s important to look at your emotional responses, because when you lose your temper or someone gets under your skin, it’s a feeling-based passion. So many people say things they don’t mean when they’re upset, and that’s born solely out of the excitement of the moment, of the way they’re feeling at the time. How you deal with your emotions is found by interpreting your Moon sign.

Of course, aspects made by other planets to the Moon, Sun, ascendant, and other points in your chart will also impact how you handle confrontation, arguments, and heated moments.

Fire Signs

The fire element signs are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius. You fire signs are the ones with the short tempers, who explode easily, but who usually forgive easily, too. You’re enthusiastic about your life, coming on strong and fierce, and that doesn’t always go over well with people who are more reserved than you.

You can be very creative, and often spontaneous—and that might irk someone who needs to plan and organize to feel comfortable. You embody all the qualities your element represents. You’re warm, inviting and captivating, you’re passionate and inspiring, and you’re also prone to blazing out of control!


You’re so competitive! As a cardinal quality, you like to be involved at the start of things, but like a fire that isn’t fed, you’ll quickly burn out and lose interest if you’re not stimulated by what you’re doing. You don’t like to lose, and you’ll argue that black is white rather than admit that you were wrong.

It can be very frustrating for those who love you, to see you setting yourself up to either explode in a fiery temper or to end up buring bridges because of your temper. Your best approach when it comes to fighting fair is to exercise a bit of patience.

Make sure you have all the correct facts at hand and resist acting out of anger. At least try to listen to the other person’s point of view—you might learn something if you do. Your emotions are so combustible that you sometimes alienate the very people you’re trying to impress.


You’re the fire sign that has to feel in control of everything. As a fixed quality, this spills over into your interactions with people. Some might be willing to submit to you, but others may have a problem with that. When you butt heads, you come across as selfish and bossy, and that doesn’t do you any favors in getting your way.

You tend to think that there are two ways of doing things; the wrong way and your way. That’s a recipe for confrontation when differences of opinions arise. In order to fight fair and to still be in with a chance of winning, you have to lose the ego! You’re naturally warm, charming, and charismatic, so tap into that. Rather than browbeating or bullying someone into seeing it your way.

You have the ability to cajole people into agreeing with you, especially if you promise them you’ll consider their ideas further down the road, or that you’ll reward them if they go along with you. Be wary of turning that into shameless manipulation, though. Leos need people to like them for who they are, not for what they have.


You rarely stay in one place long enough to argue! You don’t like to fight, and when things start to get fractious you’ll simply move onto new pastures. You feel that life is too short to spend any moment of it unhappy, and you’re definitely right!

However, there are times when you need to stand your ground. If your personal values or philosophies are challenged, then you simply won’t be picked on or belittled. If you find that you do get stuck in an argument, the best thing you can do is to try to talk your way out of it.

You can ramble on for hours, and it’s quite possible the other person will tire of hearing you and give up! You’re the mutable quality fire sign, and you try to meet others halfway to resolve things. When this isn’t possible, you’ll simply leave, and that’s usually an end to the squabble—at least as far as you’re concerned.

Earth Signs

The earth element signs are Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn. You’re the practical ones, the people who will fight fairly, and come into a confrontation armed with facts. You want the evidence, and you’ll lose your patience with someone whose argument isn’t prepared or pragmatic.

You’ve no time for flourishes and fancy words that disguise what’s really going on. You can also be quite stubborn, and you won’t change your mind easily. You won’t be bullied and you certainly won’t back down if you aren’t presented with a good reason to do so.


Of all the earth elements, you’re the one most likely to take things to extremes when it comes to being obstinate and digging in your heels! You’re the fixed sign of the earth elements, and once you’ve made up your mind, it’s easier to move a mountain than to sway your decision.

You’re naturally gentle, but if you want to win friends and influence people, you’re going to have to learn to give a little. You’re not usually one to lose your temper in an argument. You’re one of the more patient Sun signs, and this gives you an advantage.

Your strongest ammunition is keeping a calm disposition and asking questions. The more composed and assured you come across, the more you can disarm your sparring partner. The best part about arguing with you is that, when you know you’re right, you don’t hold a grudge and are keen to restore the peace. If the argument is with a lover, you can bet the makeup sex will be awesome!


As the mutable sign, it’s easier to reason with you than the other earth elements. You can be so critical, and when backed into a corner you’ll nitpick your adversary to death. This behavior is neither attractive or useful. No one wants to be personally attacked when there’s an issue to be discussed. You’ll only prolong the argument by doing this, so stop it, and employ a different tactic.

You’re very cerebral, so use your wit to your advantage. Let people know beforehand that you’ve organized everything so they don’t misread the signs and interfere with your plans. You can stay calm and reasonable when most are losing their heads, use that to get the upper hand.

Even though you come across as cool and collected, your stomach is probably keeping score. You’ll have to find a way to calm your nerves before you have difficult conversations, because they’re there, even if others don’t see them.


Arguments are almost a nourishment for you. You are ruled by Saturn, so you take things very seriously! As the cardinal quality earth sign, you know how to have fun and you can have a wonderfully bawdy and down to earth sense of humor.

When backed into a corner, though, you can rival a Taurus with your stubbornness and unwillingness to budge from what you think is right. You get wrapped up in the minutiae of the argument, rather than trying to see the bigger picture. You get tense when you feel you’re losing an argument.

When you feel like you’re going down, you grasp at straws. This only shows your opponent your weak spots, and where they’ve struck a nerve. You also talk down to people when you’re losing, and no one likes people who are uppity or snobbish. Keep that smile on your face, and disarm your adversary with a charismatic coolness.

Related Article: Fire Signs Spotlight: Why We Love Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius

Air Signs

The air signs are Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius. It’s rare for you to stay in one place long enough to get involved with an argument or any discord, but when you do, you come out guns blazing. You’re generally optimistic and don’t let things get you down.

You feel that those who disagree with you have a right to do so, even though you may look down your nose at them or eradicate them from your social circle for doing so! You genuinely believe that life’s too short not to enjoy it, and you’d much rather be partying and socializing than arguing.


Your approach to life is so easy going! You’re the mutable quality air sign, and go with the flow, taking each day as it comes and not stressing about any situation. Your emotions as mutable as you are! This confuses those who cross you; one day you agree with them, the next day you’re picking on them!

The main thing you have going in your favor is you don’t like to argue and you never stay mad for long. Even in the middle of a heated debate, you’re more than willing to share your lunch with your sparring partner or buy them a drink.

You have a tendency to pick fights when you’re bored, though, and that’s something that—while it may be entertaining for you—should be avoided. You can put people off with this behavior, and we all know how you like to feel that you’re the popular one in the crowd.


Of all the Sun signs, you’re probably the one that hates discord the most. You’re the cardinal air sign, and would much rather instigate enjoyable social functions than take part in an argument. You feel there’s safety in numbers, and you always feel better when you’re with someone who has the same views and opinions as you do.

When you do bicker, it’s because you like to be right and you want the other person to see your way is the best, the most beautiful or harmonious way. When they don’t agree with you, you’ll sulk, sometimes for days, until such a time that you’ve had enough and want to be amicable again.

Even though you don’t like to argue, you’re usually not afraid to do it. You hate injustice and unfairness, and you are not reluctant to champion the underdog or fight for equality. If you really need to win this battle, you might want to enlist the assistance of a friend or a co-worker.


Of all the air signs, you’re the most humanitarian—but can also be the most stubborn! In general, you find people argumentative because they don’t agree with you. Of course, you’re always right, or at least you like to think you are! It’s hard for people to get the better of you, but when someone takes the time to take a good case and present it with intelligence and detail, you’re not too proud to change your mind.

You’re the fixed air sign, and that is a contradiction in terms because air is rarely stationary, it’s always moving somehow. The paradox is one you feel deeply, and one that causes many a heated discussion when it comes to your ideals, principles, and values.

It’s easy for others to think they’re winning arguments with you, and that’s advantageous. You let them think they’re right and they’ve got one up on you. Then you hit them with a dose of cold logic that has the potential to completely disarm them.

Water Signs

The water element signs are Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces. Water signs often cry a lot during arguments and discord, because they feel everything so deeply. As a water sign, you’ll feel your way through life, and your emotions will range from ecstasy to passion to rage.

Like water itself, you can be deep, calm, tranquil, slowly flowing, a raging waterfall, or a tempest crashing against whatever tries to hold you back. You’re prone to mood swings, and you seem to have a sixth sense about things, and people.


You’re the cardinal quality water sign, and you feel deeply and passionately about your home and family. The people in it may drive you to distraction, but woe betide anyone who would say anything against them! The one thing that you are good at doing is making sure that, at the end of the argument, the person who picked the fight with you actually feels worse than they made you feel!

You hate discord and love to nurture and care for people, and when arguments happen they upset you. You get very emotional, and it’s hard for you to collect your thoughts so that you can present your side of the story in a rational manner.

You don’t argue to win a fight. You usually argue just to try to get people to see you. You’re so sensitive and tuned into other people that it’s easy for them to overlook your needs. This leads you to be taken for granted, and that’s not something that you’ll put up with for long.


You’ve no doubt got the most explosive temper of the water signs. You’re sensitive and intuitive, but you also have the potential to be very stubborn and very passionate. You may not reveal much of what you’re thinking and feeling, but those feelings run deep. When someone crosses you, you explode into a frenzy of emotion and ardor.

You also know just what buttons to push to get the other person all worked up and you probably enjoy pushing them, too. You will poke your adversary and prod them until they have got themselves tied in a knot. You have the ability to read into their psyche, and to outsmart them even in their own arguments.

You’re not the sort to let anything go, either. You demand respect and wield an aura of authority. Your fixed quality means that, long after the argument is over, you’re not going to let the other person forget how they wronged you. A dose of humble pie will go a long way to keeping strained relationships intact.


You hate arguments and discord, so much so that you may even resort to self-medicating rather than facing the music and hashing it out. Quarrels only upset you, and jar your emotions just as surely as if someone had picked you up and shaken you.

You’ll avoid confrontation at all costs, until you’ve had enough, and then you’ll come out like raging flood waters, especially if it’s regarding cruelty or unkindness. You really don’t ask a lot of people. As the mutable water sign, you want to let bygones be bygones, and you’re quick to forgive others who’ve wronged you. You don’t forget it though, and once you’ve had enough, you’re done.

Like the dam that holds back the mighty river, when someone’s taken advantage of your good nature too many times, they just cease to exist for you. The only thing you have to do then is to make sure that you release the pain, for Pisceans have a tendency to trap themselves in their emotional baggage.


Unless you’re a doormat—which is never a good idea—confrontations and arguments are going to happen. No one is going to get along with everyone all the time. Don’t beat yourself up for not liking someone, or even if you like someone but don’t like what they’re doing.

Disagreements happen. It’s called having your own opinion! If you don’t see yourself reflected in your Sun sign reading, then check out your Moon sign or your ascendant. To get a full picture, all three points need to be examined. When push comes to shove, astrology is one part of how you respond to discord, but your environment and upbringing will also influence you.

You might also want to see what Mars is doing in your chart, for that’s the planet of passion! The more you know about yourself and understand what makes your blood boil, the more you’ll be able to work with it and deflect some unnecessary conflicts.

Related Article: Career Tips for Cancer, Scorpio & Pisces — Water Signs

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Hi! I’m Charla Stone and I learned astrology and mysticism way back in the 1970s. I’ve spent the last four decades using the stars, tarot, runes, crystals, totems, and more to… Learn More About The Author »

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