How to Find the Love of Your Life Using the Tarot
With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, our thoughts turn to love, relationships and questions of where yours is at vs. where you’d like it to be. While there are many forums, blogs, magazines, books and ideas about how to find love, you can use the tarot to answer some questions and receive some guidance.
The tarot has many purposes, and its uses aren’t limited to fortune telling. Do you ever wonder what life has in the cards for you, or maybe you want to know how to find the love of your life using the tarot. Grab your favorite deck and let’s get started!
Think carefully about what it is you are looking for answers on. The way you word your question will directly affect your results, so be specific and precise. Otherwise, you’re likely to get quite an ambiguous answer. It’s all well and good to ask, “Is there a special someone out there for me,” but that’s open-ended and vague. The cards won’t know how to answer.
It’s best to plan for a series of questions and to do more than one tarot layout, or your answer will be inconclusive, and you’ll end up getting frustrated at your cards. Here are some possible ways of phrasing your questions to get you started, and remember that using questions that begin with “how,” and “what,” can lead to more direct answers from your cards.
It’s also best to stick to questions related to you and what you can do. Asking about how someone else will react or behave is difficult because they are not present during your reading. Focusing on you and what you can do to find love is the best way to have a helpful reading.
- Is love looking for me at the moment?
- What do I need to do to find love?
- Where and when might I meet this person?
- How will I recognize this person when we meet?
- What do I need to know about this person?
The layout you use is also important. Choose your layout ahead of time, and stick to it. I can’t stress enough that you have to be specific about your intentions and focused on what you’re doing, otherwise you’ll get puzzling answers and you won’t see clarity in the cards.
There are several ways of approaching a spread, and none of them are better than the others. It’s a matter of preference. Working with the tarot is always a fluid and interactive story. One of the simplest methods to use is the one card draw. Quiet your mind, open your heart, and ask your question.
Draw the card, and use it as the answer. The card often leads you to the next question to ask. If you’ve asked, “Is love looking for me at the moment,” and you draw an optimistic card such as the Sun, then perhaps your next question could be, “Is it somebody I already know,” and you can continue to pose questions to the cards to clarify.
The timing of all of this is particularly important. To go back to our original example, if you were to ask “Is there someone out there for me,” but you don’t ask about a specific time frame, you could get a very positive answer, but be waiting on them for twenty years! The tarot is a tool, and like any other tool, it is only as effective as the person who uses it.
There are some timing indicators in the deck, like the astrological associations of the different cards. Using this method may well give you an insight into your lover’s sun sign—an added bonus!
- The suit of wands indicates the fire signs of Aries, Leo, and Scorpio.
- The suit of swords points to the air signs of Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius.
- The suit of cups reflects the water signs of Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces.
- The suit of pentacles resonates with the earth signs of Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn.
Court cards (King, Queen, Knight and Page) often mean that the timing of finding love will depend on someone else and isn’t completely within your control. Upright court cards mean someone could be helpful; inverted court cards indicate that they have the potential to create delays or obstacles.
You’ll have to be a bit intuitive about your reading because you’ll find all kinds of conflicting information on the internet! Choose one method, and stick to it. To get the most out of the tarot, you’ll have to resist the temptation to assign different associations simply because you don’t like the outcome of your layout.
The tarot can provide hints about timing, it can also bring you glimpses as to where you might find love. There are no hard and fast rules, but with a bit of logic and intuition, you’ll soon see the tarot will imply places as well as time frames.
Of course the suit of cups has to do with water, for that’s it’s natural element. Cups point to anything from meeting someone aboard a cruise ship, to you standing in line behind someone at a drinking fountain! Pentacles is represented by the element of earth, so any earthly pleasure has potential. This includes hiking, eating out, doing things around the home, or even at work.
Swords represent the element of air, so think about intellectual pursuits. It could cover school and universities, places where there’s a lot of technology, or even a weekend seminar. Churches, religious organizations, even meditation groups may be represented here.
Lastly, we have the suit of wands, relating to the element of fire. You don’t have to climb a volcano - warm places, summer holidays, and anywhere you work up a sweat are all included here. Think sports, gymnasiums, even activism. If it’s something you’re passionate about, there’s a chance you’ll find someone to share that passion with - in every sense of the word!
What type of person should you be looking for when it comes to love and a fulfilling relationship? This is a crucial question because very often the person you think could be the love of your life, and the person who will really be a compatible life partner, are very different people indeed! You have to be realistic about what you have to offer, and who you’re likely to attract.
We talked earlier about how the different suits represented the different sun signs. If you’re going to consult the tarot about the potential sun sign of your lover, don’t keep repeating the process, or things will get very confusing. If you ask the same question four days in a row, you’re unlikely to get the same answer consecutively.
There are so many variables and we each have more than one person who might make an ideal match for us. An air sign possibility may reveal itself one day, and a water sign option the next. Take it lightly, and remember that even if you ask the cards what sun sign your lover will be, it’s all fluid and malleable.
Once you actually meet that person, you might find that the rising sign is more strong in their natal chart than their sun sign, and that’s what the tarot picked up. It’s all fluid, and malleable, and it will all lead you to your true love if you stay open minded and involved in the process.
The court cards also bring glimpses of your potential partner to you, but remember these are archetypes, rather than one actual person. A general rule of thumb is that the ages go from Pages representing someone young, to Kings representing someone mature. All the court cards are gender neutral when it comes to finding romance.
Look at the characteristics this card represents - such as virility, compassion, stability - rather than taking it at its literal face value and generalizing your reading too much.
The major arcana cards also share information about your next love. They reveal to you what state of life that person is going through at the moment, and why you might not be together just now. For instance, The Hermit might mean this person is very spiritual, while the Wheel of Fortune could indicate they’re going through a lot of changes.
It’s best not to do this type of reading too often. Remember to record your thoughts and the cards you drew so you build up a profile and blueprint of what you’re seeking in a mate.
In the Meantime
Even if you didn’t get exactly the answer from the cards you were hoping for, there are still things you can do in the meantime. You should take steps to prepare for this wonderful encounter. In your daily tarot meditations, talk to the cards, and write down your thoughts in a journal or (private) online blog.
Journaling will give you something to reflect on in the future, it helps you organize yourself towards the goal of finding true love, as opposed to just drifting and waiting for it to happen. Here are some prompts to guide your journaling to get you started:
- What kind of relationship is ideal for me?
- How do I draw that relationship into my life?
- What do I need to change so I’m ready for love?
- What is standing in my way from finding the love I seek?
- How do I overcome what’s standing in my way from being in love?
Keep in mind you shouldn’t shut yourself off while you’re preparing for love to find you. Continue to be socially active. Go on dates, pursue activities you enjoy, and let the world see you enjoying yourself. The more you’re out there loving your life, the more chances there are that people will see you and want to get to know you.
Use the tarot for guidance before you go out. For example, the Hermit might encourage you to play it cool and remain mysterious, while the 8 of Swords reminds you not to let others make you feel inhibited, use their guidance to keep an eye out for the love of your life. If you want to get a quick start, you can get a free 3 card Love Tarot reading right here on Astrology Answers!
These are just some of the ways the tarot can lead you to love. Of course, simply reading the cards and gaining their insight won’t miraculously change your love life. You have to be part of the process. Interact with the wisdom of the archetypal images and let them speak to you. If you use the tarot as a tool to help you to improve your life, you won’t be alone for long - I promise!
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