How to Use Tarot to Open Yourself to Love Again
The Tarot is an excellent tool to help you tap into your emotional side and heal from past wounds that may be closing you off to love.
If it’s been a while since you’ve dated, it can be difficult to put yourself back out there. Especially when dating apps can feel overwhelming and meeting new people in person is unpredictable and difficult, it’s tough to know where to begin. Enter: The Tarot.
The Tarot is a tool that can guide you and re-focus your energy so you can open yourself up to new romance. When you learn to ask clear questions of the Tarot, you’ll activate the direct line of communication to your intuition and inner wisdom.
Here are some simple questions you can ask in your Tarot readings to open yourself to love again. Each of these questions is powerful on its own, or you can combine them into a 3-card spread.
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Question 1: What Do I Need to Release to Open Myself to Love?
In order to attract love, we need to project loving energy outwardly as well. The intentions we set, whether consciously or unconsciously, create specific kinds of energy, so it’s important to understand the energy we’re releasing. If we haven’t processed and cleared past emotional pain, we are going to feel trapped in the past. A great question to bring to your Tarot reading is what you need to clear and release to raise the vibrations of the energy you send out into the world.
You can use this question for a single-card draw or even the driving force behind a 3-card past/present/future spread. because it can help you understand the progression of your energy over time, how your wounds were created, and what you can do to heal. When you see how your energy influenced your past, how it is affecting you now, and how to release what’s blocking your heart from opening.
Through Tarot, you’ll see that you do have the power to use self-awareness and redirect your energy. Being open to love almost always requires clearing your emotions and habitual thought patterns that developed from past experiences.
Once you’ve pulled the cards, read their interpretations and notice what thoughts or memories come to you. Write down your impressions in a journal that you can revisit later. This is a great way to find forgiveness for yourself or someone else. Trust that asking for spiritual guidance and being willing to work on your own energy in a relaxed, high-vibe space will offer deep, soul-level healing.
Question 2: What is Best for Me to Focus On?
Where attention goes, energy flows. When setting the intention to be open to love again, it’s important we be willing to put in our own time and energy to work with the Universe as a co-creator of your reality. Tarot can help guide you towards the people, places, and experiences that will open up your heart. Perhaps you need to clear up career-related energy blocks before you’ll be ready for love; this is something the Tarot can help you understand.
The best approach to interpret a Tarot spread is to study the imagery on each card first, notice the thoughts or feelings that come up, and write them down. Then, reference your deck’s guidebook (or check out our Tarot card meanings here) to gain a deeper understanding of the card. Finally, consider what narrative your cards are creating together.
Question 3: What Do I Need in a Partner?
Sometimes we feel unlucky in love because we seem to find only the wrong people. It’s very possible, though, that this is because you haven’t clearly defined for yourself what you need and want in a relationship. That makes it pretty difficult for the Universe to deliver the right person into your life!
You can use the Tarot to get clear on your relationship needs and dealbreakers. Even a single-card draw focused on this question could offer you a ton of insight. For each card you pull in answer to this question, write down statements related to each card that affirm something you need in a relationship. It’s not bad to want to be physically attracted to your partner or to want a partner who has already established stability in their life.
If you’re working with a larger spread, again, consider the story the cards are coming together to tell. Setting standards for how you want to be treated in love is necessary!
Read Tarot Regularly (Weekly or Even Daily!)
Consistency is key when working with Tarot. Over time, you’ll notice you develop a unique relationship with your Tarot deck as you bond with it. Treat it with love and care and it will offer you huge rewards.
It’s important to set in your mind that this new intention of opening yourself to love again may require breaking some habits. The Tarot will not tell you your future, it can only offer you guidance. What you choose to do with the information is entirely your call. Using the Tarot once is not going to make a new relationship appear out of thin air unless you put in the work!
Changing your thoughts and energy is possible with consistent practice and focus. Start building the habit of journaling and pull Tarot cards each week (or even each day) so that you can be in constant communication with your intuition. Remember, you have the power to shift your life and energy. The Tarot is simply the GPS guiding you there.
As you work with the Tarot, you’ll grow your confidence in your own ability to change your life. Doing this deep inner work will affect change in every aspect of your life, not just the one you’re currently focused on. It’s an exciting and empowering journey that taps you into a tremendous amount of inner wisdom.
Notice we haven’t asked questions like, ‘when will I meet my soulmate?’ or, ‘does so-and-so like me?’ Those questions don’t give you the ability to mould your energy to attract positive experiences and will provide very little valuable information. The Tarot is meant to connect you with yourself, your inner knowledge, not to predict the future or read minds. We are very much shaping our destiny with the energy we hold and emit, so we look to the Tarot to help us create the inner landscape of our minds to be a beautiful garden that both gives and receives love.
If you don’t have a Tarot deck on hand, check out our Master Tarot Deck or our free 3 card love reading. You may also choose to get a little assistance and book a Tarot reading with a professional! It’s okay to ask for help - sometimes a more objective party who can see your energy without bias may be able to explain the cards in a way that helps you see yourself more clearly.
Essentially, the Tarot can help empower us to become the person we want to meet. It helps us see deeper into our own thought patterns and understand how we can become more loving, kind people. The statement ‘be the change you wish you see’ also applies to relationships, and the Tarot deck is best used to help you do just that.
What can you change within yourself to open yourself to the vibration of love? Look to the Tarot and find out!
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