Beneficial Thought: Don’t Poke the Mama Bear While Mars is in Cancer
You’ve heard the saying, ‘When Mama bear ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy’. If you haven’t, today you’re going to get a lesson on it. We may be getting this lesson for a few weeks, when Mars enters Cancer on June 4. That doesn’t mean you’ll be in Mama Bear mode for several weeks, unless that’s the energy you pursue.
Today we are going to talk about how to use Mars in Cancer effectively, so you don’t spend the next several weeks being called Mama Bear, or running from Mama Bear.
What is Mars in Cancer?
In this transit of Mars in Cancer, we have the aggressive and driven warrior planet Mars entering the most nurturing zodiac sign of them all, Cancer. If it sounds like two opposite energies combining, you’re right. Like everything in astrology, there’s good and bad to that.
The bad is the heated energy of Mars combining with the sometimes crabby energy of cardinal sign Cancer. This is energy that will manifest in daily life thus, poking the Mama Bear.
The good is that Cancer has a lot of soft spots. As aggressive as this Mama Bear is when she’s poked, she also has the sweetest, most gentle and nurturing energy that you know. This energy has a tendency to soften the aggressive warrior energy of Mars.
Mars will not be quite as aggressive during this period, you just need to be very careful not to poke the Mama Bear, and not to bring out the Mama Bear if you are poked. How do you do that? Well first, you need to recognize the problem.
What Does Mars in Cancer Look Like?
Again, we have a very driven leadership energy coming through over the next few weeks. This transit lasts from June 4 to June 20. You want to channel the best of both worlds, and stay away from the shadow sides of both worlds.
This will be a tricky balancing act. But, with Cancer softening up Mars a little bit, it’s not impossible, in fact, it’s a little easier than you think.
Mars in Cancer will manifest in your daily life as a softer warrior position. In some cases, this can become too soft. You become the passive-aggressive warrior, the warrior that loves to be right, but doesn’t want to come off as a jerk.
Here’s an example, “Oh I don’t need a ride to the store tonight, honey. I guess we can go without milk for another day. Even though I asked you seven times about it this morning. I just won’t have breakfast or coffee tomorrow.”
This is an example of the anger of Mars, lashing out passive-aggressively with Cancer softness. It’s a no-brainer that what’s really being said is, “I love you honey, but I’m really, really mad because we don’t have milk. That’s all I’ll think about until we do. Expect to be punished all evening about this.”
This type of scenario usually results in someone else getting even madder, throwing their hands up and saying, “Fine! I’ll go get your stinking milk!” Then the rest of the night is ruined, and everybody is punished all night anyway. Mama Bear ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.
Because Cancer is the nurturer, and the domestic body, the home life is where you are going to see these types of Mars in Cancer eruptions the most. You’ll see it at dinner, over your sex life, and whether or not you texted someone back soon enough.
You’ll see it pop up in many places in regards to your daily domestic chores and affairs. So now that you know what it looks like, let’s talk about how to keep both yourself and Mama Bear happy at the same time.
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Mama Bear Leads With Love
Let’s remember that the root of all things Mama Bear is love. When she’s ready to tear someone apart in the woods, it’s because she’s feeling threatened. One of her own is being threatened, so even though she comes across as this really angry bear, her intentions are in the right place.
True, she could kill you with one look, but her intentions are in the right place. Though that doesn’t help you much when you’re running from her. This is Cancer in their purest form.
Whenever Cancer feels threatened, they want to rip your face off. You just need to be more mindful of the feelings of others during this transit. This is easier for water signs, and more difficult for air signs and earth signs. But you can do it.
When you approach any Mama Bear the right way, she doesn’t want to rip your face off. She gets you, you get her, everybody ends up with what they want. So how do you do this?
First, one of Cancer’s most unfortunate traits is their hypersensitive nature. They take everything personally. If it’s good, it’s amazing. If it’s not, run for the hills, baby, Mama Bear is getting ready to roar. So avoid those “not so good” moments by leading with love.
How can we avoid triggering the hypersensitive nature of all humans under Mars in Cancer? Lead with love.
Let’s go back to the milk example, and the poor guy who forgot to go to the store on his way home from work. Try this instead. “Honey, we don’t have milk, I’m about to start supper, what should we do?”
You don’t need to lay it on thick. But you also don’t need to kill the guy with your eyes because you’re freaking out about a coffee you haven’t even made yet on a day that isn’t even here yet. Just explain your needs with love, and ask nicely with love.
When you lead with love, this triggers a response in love. It’s a simple way of activating the Law of Attraction. Give what you want to get. Take extra steps to remember the milk. Don’t rip someone’s head off if they do.
Don’t be a doormat, but don’t be a steamroller either. “Oh no, I’m so sorry I forgot! It’s been a crazy day for me too and I was taking a ton of calls on the way home. I’m going right now, don’t worry about it. Let me pick up dinner for you on the way, okay?”
Nobody wants to feel the laser eyes of Mama Bear. If you ask about the milk in the same way as our passive-aggressive example, the guy is going to be stewing all night wishing you never had milk for your coffee again. Nobody wants that.
Working through Mars in Cancer is going to be heated, emotional, with a lot of hypersensitive emotions that can get triggered very easily. You only need to remember three words: Lead with love. That is the literal definition of Mars in Cancer anyway.
Mars, warrior leader combined with Cancer, mother lover. Lead with love. This way, you won’t have your people running from Mama Bear during this time. In fact, Mama Bear and all of her cubs will be very happy indeed.
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