Navigating the Holidays with Your New Beau: Is It Written In the Stars For You?
Updated on May 28, 2020
Whether or not you’re going into the holidays in a brand new relationship, the holidays and the family time that comes with them can be rather stress-inducing.
Well, we’re here to teach you how to understand zodiac signs compatibility to ensure you have much more stable footing, even before you step foot into your new partner’s family’s pine cone and tinsel decorated home. Understanding zodiac compatibility equips you to handle any and all family gatherings while feeling confident that you’ll make a good impression. And don’t worry, if you haven’t studied zodiac sign compatibility or you don’t know all the signs that well, it won’t take hours of studying. This article will tell you all you need to know.
This year, you’re sure to win the hearts of your new bae’s family because you’ll be armed with the secrets of the Universe that are at the core of interpersonal skills. Just do yourself a favour and if you get the vibe that your audience is not into astrology, don’t talk about it, deal? Use your knowledge, but keep these secrets to yourself.
Check Your Beau’s Parents’ Zodiac Signs for Compatibility
First, your mission is to find out what Sun signs your partner’s parents are. Chances are, your beau at least knows their birthdays if not their signs, so ask!
Before you check the zodiac sign compatibility between your signs, just know if you’re not naturally compatible, you’re not doomed to have a shaky relationship with them. Knowing more about a person’s core personality can help you understand them more, but not entirely. Don’t assume that everything you read about someone’s sign is entirely accurate to their unique personality. Ask your partner if they think their parents’ signs match them, if you’re comfortable.
Master the Introductions
Knowing that certain signs like Capricorn are slower to trust and open up is important, and you can relax knowing you don’t need to be best friends with them right away and if they seem aloof it’s not something to take personally. You’ll know a Capricorn is also likely to ask you about your plan for your future to size you up. Some people like Scorpios get very close very quickly and like to talk about deep emotions. Knowing each of their signs will help you understand why one person may respond to you one way while another may act completely different. Often it’s not about you and more about what’s going on in their life when you meet them.
If you can, use your intuition to get a sense of how your partner’s parents are feeling when you meet them. Think of how you can make them feel comfortable, well fed, at ease and enjoying their time. Instead of thinking about if you’re being liked, focus on gestures that show consideration for others. Bringing a gift like a bottle of wine or box of chocolates is a great way to set the tone. Just make a point to ask what they like in advance! The more time you spend being considerate instead of self-conscious, the better.
Consider for a moment how protective parents can be of their baby who they watched grow, taught how to eat and tie their shoes - they probably even taught them what to look for in a partner. Your partner’s parents love them very much and they really just want to feel secure knowing that someone is going to look out for their baby. This is not a time for you to beg for their approval or to be someone you’re not, just focus on getting to know them and listening to their stories. Do your best to keep the conversation pointing in a positive direction, which means not telling stories of hardship, complaining about your job, your living situation, or for Peet’s sake, your food allergies.
Your partner’s family may not remember what you said but they will remember how you made them feel. And of course, it’s usually best to avoid drinking too much, talking about religion or politics, or being very physically expressive with your beau.
Even knowing just one thing about someone’s core personality can be a way in, a way to relate to them. Instead of focusing on your differences, focus on what’s important to them, what they value, and where their heart is. People born under the sign of Cancer tend to be family-focused, while Pisceans are artistic and Geminis are extra chatty. Here are some straightforward things to know about each sign to give you a leg up. We want you to be empowered to know you can be compatible with anyone when you know yourself and make an honest effort to understand others.
Earth Signs: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
An Earth sign is practical and grounded. Taurus loves a nice home, good food, and is a romantic at heart. Virgos need cleanliness, step-by-step plans, and won’t be rushed. Capricorns are business-minded and have a select few close, long-lasting friendships.
Here are some things to take into consideration about Earth sign personalities:
Firmly Planted On The Ground
In general, Earth signs are considered salt of the Earth people. They tend to get along best with other Earth signs and with Water signs. They like to plan out meals, make sure all details are taken care of in advance, and have a great appreciation for life’s creature comforts. They are creatures of habit. They aren’t usually into spirituality - they like doing things they can see with their eyes and feel with their hands. Earth signs are realistic and grounded.
Not Risk Takers
These are the people that usually have a five-year plan and will likely want to know yours. Financial security is usually quite important to them, and although they like luxury, that doesn’t mean they are necessarily materialistic and they watch their bank accounts like hawks. Earth signs often like to do things like seeing the sights, taking nature walks, cooking or watching movies. Ask them to go rock climbing and you’d hear crickets most likely - they are analytical and often think of what could go wrong. They are caring people that put family first.
Avoid Talking About “Crazy” Plans When Near Earth Signs
If you want to start a yoga studio in Costa Rica, make sure you have investors, savings, and a business plan before you share your dream with an Earth sign. They tend to poke holes in wild ideas, not because of malice, but because they are detail-oriented and practical. If you suggest going to a rock concert and getting sloshed they may raise an eyebrow too. Maybe stick to have a nice dinner at a nice restaurant followed by a movie. Keep it simple and if you drive, drive the speed limit. Don’t bring up controversial topics about changing the world unless they do.
Air Signs: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
The Air signs are known to be outgoing, friendly, and full of ideas to discuss. You may find your conversations with Air signs jump all over the place as they are very mentally stimulated people. They have the gift of gab, so to speak. Librans are usually concerned with social justice and art, while Aquarians are often humanitarian, big-picture people. Geminis are playful. love travel and variety, as well as children. Air signs can be unpredictable and often get along best with Fire signs who are brave and take action.
One thing to know about Air signs is that they are unlikely to sit still for very long. They like to execute their ideas almost as soon as they pop into their heads, and they aren’t afraid to change the plan on a whim. They are creative and like to learn so they love museums, avant-garde films, and new places. They love books, music, and dancing!
Air signs like to do a lot, and they like to do it quickly. They walk and talk fast, but it’s not because they are trying to be rude, they just have a lot of energy and need to tire themselves out or they won’t sleep at night. Show interest in their ideas and be ready for anything!
Air signs are not really creatures of habit and if their curiosity is piqued, they are likely to investigate. They like going to new places, exploring different viewpoints, and consuming and spreading information. Sharing your favourite books, travel destinations, or volunteer experiences will likely interest them. They are playful and like to go on adventures that stimulate their intellectual side.
Avoid Being Vague When Talking to Air Signs
Air signs are talkers, so feel free to discuss things honestly and openly. They like conversation and care about connecting to people through words. Their way of understanding others is through meetings of minds, so just be yourself and don’t try to sugarcoat things. Just have fun with it!
Water Signs: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
These are emotionally-driven people who are intuitive and usually into spirituality, philosophy, and art. They read between the lines and can be moody, so don’t take it personally if they are hot and cold. Water signs don’t shy away from eye-contact and sense your feelings beyond words due to their highly sensitive empathy. Large crowds are not something a Cancer likes because they love being home with family in their safe space. Scorpios want to talk about relationships, sex or any other taboo concepts that others avoid. Pisceans are loving and often get lost in the moment so often they may lose track of time. Water signs are quick to pick up on intentions that aren’t genuine, so be real with them.
Water signs often leave parties early because they need to relax from the energy in the room. They get overwhelmed easily - they are the signs that tend to cry when they are both happy and sad, unapologetically. Don’t be emotionally closed off with them or they won’t feel they can get to know you.
Keep the conversation positive or they will start to feel drained. They are empathic and have trouble thinking about heavy negative things. Focus on positive topics and watch as they thrive on your optimism. They are likely to take words to heart, so think before you speak and be kind.
Water signs make decisions based on their feelings, they love deeply, stay attached, and often are at the mercy of their emotions. They go places based on the feeling they get from that place and even buy things because they like it whether or not it’s practical. They like people who are positive but willing to be vulnerable and share their struggles. They feel safe with people who open up because they feel they can do the same.
To Score With Water Sign Family Members, Talk About How You Feel About Your Boo
You can open your heart around these signs. They will want to know how you feel different about their child and how you’re connected emotionally. They are heart-centred and like to understand people based on how they deal with their emotions. Talking about how you and your boo have overcome certain things can be good talking points.
Fire Signs: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
We come to the most temperamental of the elements, the Fire signs. They can come across as aggressive but they are just extremely passionate. You don’t need to worry about them hiding their emotions because they really can’t. They are extravagant, loud, and love to be the centre of attention. They are magnetic and kind to their cores. Their courageous personalities are just more excitable than most. A Leo is bold and values strength and leadership characteristics. An Aries is headstrong, likes to get things done quickly, and is very direct. Sagittarians are adventurous nature lovers and want to help people expand their viewpoints.
Fire sign people are spontaneous and often try new things. They often have a variety of interests and know how to have a good time. They are charming but often have to battle their ego. Regardless, they know how to get things done. They are brave people and get along well with other Fire signs or with Air signs usually who have various interests.
Fire can be angry, and if a Fire sign is having a moment, just get out of their way and don’t take it personally. If they get anxious, they may say something they don’t mean. Fire signs are naturally competitive people and prone to challenging anyone. They are also loving and passionate so don’t think they are bad people - they’re just full of energy that often comes out all at once and dramatically.
Fire signs are big and bold and can do amazing things in their lives. Let them share their stories and perspectives and you’ll learn a lot about overcoming fear. You can always count on them to be entertaining, have lots of interesting friends and see possibilities everywhere.
Watch How You Respond to Their Questions
Don’t react too quickly if a Fire sign says something that makes you uncomfortable. Stay calm, take a deep breath, and realize they communicate before they think and are naturally blunt. Take it all with a grain of salt and remember they are often putting their feet in their own mouths so you don’t need to correct them or have a battle of the egos.
Don’t get hung up on if you’re compatible or not, but seek to find common ground. Look for ways to help others enjoy themselves instead of thinking about getting what you want. Making an effort to be kind to them will go a long way and keeping yourself interested in making it work will help. Don’t focus on what could go wrong, but rather on doing your best to be considerate. You can learn something from everyone!
Picture things going well before you show up. Set your intention to get to know these new people, because chances are, if you like your beau, the people that raised them are probably going to have a lot of the same characteristics. Remember, you reap what you sow and if your intention is to make it a nice day for everyone, regardless of differences of lifestyles, beliefs, or opinions, you’ll move beyond fear and develop strong bonds.
Any signs can be compatible if we take the time to understand each other; some signs just bond easier. Also, we are not just our Sun sign. If your beau’s parents have a little bit of hippy in them, they may be interested in sitting down to compare birth charts with you. This could even help them understand you better as well!
It’s nice to have the inside secrets of the stars, but don’t get too caught up in sleuthing out someone’s Sun sign in order to understand them. You’ll likely be able to place a person in one of the 4 elements within the span of a short conversation, so start there. Simply being cognizant and aware of others and adapting your behaviour to meet them where they’re at is your best bet. Just relax and don’t take yourself too seriously - it’s the holidays after all!
If you do know your beau’s family’s Sun signs, you can Check Out Your Love Compatibility With Other Signs using our Compatibility Calculator!
About The Author
Shannon Yrizarry has taught metaphysical subjects since 2013 including the deeply esoteric lineage of kundalini yoga. She has worked as a healer, clairvoyant and card reader and… Learn More About The Author »
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