Love Astrology: The 7 Stages of Twin Flame Love

Posted on April 03, 2019
Updated on June 25, 2020

Two red heart candles representing twin flames.

Have you made a twin flame connection?

Or are you wondering if this love you are feeling for someone is twin flame love?

Today we hope to narrow down some of that confusion for you. Let’s have a look at the stages of twin flame love, and the signs you may be getting every day, without even realizing it.

Finding your twin flame doesn’t mean you will instantly fall in love and live happily ever after. In fact, depending on what stage of maturity you and your twin flame are at in life, you may be more likely to push one another away than to bond. Most people enjoy the pre-stage of twin flame love, which is yearning for that one individual who will make you feel complete.

There is much mental preparation involved as you embark upon your twin flame journey, which includes 7 definitive stages. Think you may have found your one? Let’s explore.

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Twin Flame Love: The 7 Stages

Stage 1- Seeing Your Twin Flame for the First Time

At some point, you will come in physical contact with your flame. It may be but a brief meeting, or you may receive a glimpse of them in a dream, but there will be a feeling awakened in you that immediately tells you this person will play a special role in your life.

Your heart may speed up, you’ll yourself be entranced, and overall, your desire to want to know them better and integrate them into your life will be completely overwhelming.

Stage 2 - Falling in Love with Your Twin Flame

Be prepared to be knocked off your feet as you fall in love with your twin flame. This is no ordinary love - it is one that will seem fairytale enchanted. No matter even if you attempt to resist the strength of this love, you will be pulled in. There’s no denying the reality of falling head over heels with your twin flame.

Stage 3 - The Relationship Begins

Because you and your flame are so in sync, you will find them easy to get along with and for the beginning of your relationship, everything may seem perfect. While this is a beginning phase of the relationship (before experiencing some major chaotic interruption of your bliss), this is the level of love that twin flames eventually wind up back in. So, hold on to that feeling.

Stage 4 - Turbulence & Purging

Stage 3 fed the beauty of the twin flame relationship, but stage 4 will awaken the beast. You’ll notice - as if out of the blue - that your ability to agree may be waning and now differences in opinion are prevalent. You may find it difficult to even be around your twin flame at times. This is because our twin flames don’t just mirror our personalities and feed our desires.

Our twin flames mirror our shadows as well-meaning they will highlight the sides of ourselves we don’t often get to see. If we are explosive, they will be quieter. If we don’t tend to speak up for ourselves, they will be outspoken.

While these personality traits are challenging, the provocation and fights that arise are necessary for growth through this stage. These moments allow us to view ourselves fully- not just on the surface. While it won’t be easy, embracing this stage is essential in becoming one with your flame.

Stage 5 - Catch Me If You Can

The tension that comes from stage 5 can be a bit much and one - if not both - flames may break off from the other emotionally and physically. This is known as the ‘running and chasing’ stage of twin flame love. Whether you are the runner or the chaser, this stage can be devastating to twin flame love. Maturity levels will be a major factor in who is the chaser and who is the pursuer, as the chaser is the more mature partner.

The ‘run’ may be physical or a mental shutdown, silent treatment or inability to communicate. This complicated game of cat and mouse can last weeks, months, and even years. This stage may even lead to a temporary end of the twin flame relationship. But don’t worry - it’s not really over. Not if they’re your actual twin flame.

Stage 6 - Surrender to Twin Flame Love

You’ve fought, you’ve broken apart and been drawn back together. Now is the stage where you’ll stop fighting the chemistry and power of your bond and begin to surrender to intense, twin flame love. You and your flame will become closer than ever by being honest and shedding egos.

As a result, old wounds will begin to heal, and you will draw closer together. It’s not uncommon to visit stages 5 and 6 several times before getting it right, especially when the ego is reawakened.

Stage 7- Becoming One

Finally! Beyond raging egos and arguments, you and your flame have come together in harmony and shared meaning and peace. As you have become more honest with one another and gotten rid of inflated egos, the harmony you experience as a couple is mind-blowing. You’ll embrace forgiveness and feel fulfilled and loved completely by your partner.

Concluding Thoughts

While these stages aren’t always easy to live through and experience, these are telltale signs that you are engaged in a relationship with your twin flame.

This is when walking through the fire to find the treasure - your twin flame - is well worth it!

Related Article: Twin Flame Signs: 11 Ways to Know You’ve Met Your Match

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A self-described ‘word-nerd,’ Capricorn Laranya came to the metaphysical world after going through a particularly difficult breakup with an unsupportive ex. Suffering from… Learn More About The Author »

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