The Darker Side of Your Sun Sign
If you’ve ever read up on your Sun sign, you know that every Sun sign is a mixture of positive and negative traits. It has to be this way, because there always has to be a balance, something challenging you to push yourself.
Many of the definitions focus mainly on the positive side of things, and that’s right, too. It’s always best to accentuate the positive as a means to overcoming the negative. However, you can’t ‘brightside’ things and hope they’ll all get better! If you really want to improve yourself, you have to look at what challenges you, what flips your switch, and own it.
It’s also entirely possible that even your positive traits are somehow manifesting themselves in a negative manner. Someone who is compassionate and kind may get used and taken advantage of by others who have dubious integrity.
Someone who is confident and independent might be brash and tactless because of it. You are a complex blend of assets and liabilities, and only when you are prepared to take responsibility for what some call ‘the shadow self’ can you truly know yourself, and find contentment in who you are.
How does this manifest through the Sun signs? Use this as a starting point to identify what’s bubbling under the surface, what you don’t want others to know about you, or even what comes flying out when you’re stressed or angry.
When you’re prepared to accept yourself, ‘warts and all’ as my mother used to say, then you can start to integrate the dragon within, and tame the beast so that, even though it may be classified as a ‘negative trait,’ you know how to use it in a positive manner.
It’s a known fact that Aries can be pushy when they are focused on getting something done. There’s a fine line between discussion and argument, and you cross it frequently, not really caring whether you insult someone or hurt their feelings in the process.
You don’t suffer fools lightly and don’t think twice about putting them in their place, and if they cry, well, that must be a sign of their weakness rather than your insensitivity. Try to be less pushy and more persuasive, and you’ll find that your natural charm and charisma get you far more than your obstinacy.
Just as the irate bull intimidates people from entering into his pen, you intimidate people from crossing you. You’re not above using someone’s weakness against them to get what you want, particularly if it saves you some money or energy to do so.
When someone annoys you, you’ll remove your support or affection or both, and—like the raging bull in a china shop—you’ll let your temper loose and break something if pushed hard enough. Avoid being passive aggressive; it doesn’t suit your natural sensuality.
Try to cultivate some patience, and remember that your way isn’t the only way to do things.
You use words as your main weapons and you are so quick witted that you can cut someone with the sharp edge of your tongue. You like to be the center of attention and when you feel that you’re being ignored, you’re not afraid to come out with outlandish comments and derogatory remarks just to shock someone into noticing you.
You like the sound of your own voice, but you have to learn that others have their own story too, even if it doesn’t interest you. Communication is always a two way street. Turn on that Gemini charisma and really listen to others. It will win you the popularity vote, for sure!
You have emotions that run deep, and you know how to use them to get what you want. You turn on the tears at the drop of a hat, sulk, and use passive aggressive tactics to get what you want.
You’re able to look vulnerable and powerless, and while sometimes that’s valid, other times you know that by behaving in this manner you can manipulate people to get some kind of attention or reward. Of all the signs, you’re one of the best at emotional blackmail, but be careful how you use this.
Those who know you will soon become wise to this tactic, and you run the risk of alienating them if you depend on it too much.
You like to have things your own way, and often get openly cantankerous when you don’t get it. You have a way of knowing just how to push someone’s buttons and you do it without hesitation to humiliate someone in order to make yourself look better.
You like to be the center of attention, but you have to remember that this cuts both ways. It’s always better to have fans than mere onlookers, and you want to draw the right kind of recognition to yourself, being known for your warm lion heart, rather than the bossy show off you have the potential to be.
If there’s any sign better at emotional blackmail than Cancer, it’s you! There are two sides to you; one sweet and pleasant and likeable, the other disparaging and critical. You’re not flawless, even though you hope that others never see your failings, and when you have made a mistake, you often do anything and everything to try to avoid recognizing it and owning it.
You need to learn how to turn your criticism toward a constructive note, and be prepared to praise and forgive while you’re making the corrections. This goes for yourself, as well as others, because you’re usually your own worst critic, preferring to erase something—or someone—and go back to the beginning, rather than spending the time putting it right.
You’re the sign of the scales and justice, and nothing flips your switch faster than unfairness. You can’t abide discrimination, inequality, and cruelty, and you’ll fly off the handle faster than anything if you see it happening to yourself or others.
You’re not one for confrontation, but you will not tolerate one-sidedness. You might want to curb that temper a bit. You’ll make far more progress applying that energy towards doing something constructive to change things, rather than just ranting and raving about the current oppression of it all.
By nature you’re deep and mysterious and when that is applied to your dark side, it has a tendency to creep up on people. All water signs have the ability to be manipulative, and because you’re the most cerebral of them all, you’ll have a well thought out plan on what to do next.
You don’t get mad, you get even. You’re cold and calculating and will cut someone off in a heartbeat. Just remember that your sneaky tactics will come to light eventually, even if you are using them more for defence than attack. Turn your scheming into something positive, for your enigmatic nature is part of your innate charm.
If you’re going to attack someone, you’ll do it by brightsiding or gaslighting them. You’ve got such a positive energy that you are able to work out how to make it appear that you’re making an innocuous comment, but to the person it’s aimed at it will cut like a knife.
Of course, they usually react—which is the desired response—and then it makes them look like the bad guy to someone who doesn’t understand the full story. You get your own way by going over the top with kindness and optimism, but you don’t have to do that.
You’re likeable enough as it is without having to manipulate people and play mind games to get what you want from others.
Even on a good day, you’ve got a reputation for being bossy and dour, and when you’re not getting your own way, it’s customary for you to sabotage the way things are going by making sure that no one gets what they want. When crossed, you remove your affection from others, and completely shut down communication.
You hold a grudge forever, and don’t forgive easily. All of this takes so much energy though! Lighten up and let the old goat laugh. You’ve got a great sense of humor underneath it all, and no one will think less of you for letting it show. You’ll actually get more respect that way in the long run!
You’re naturally so aloof that arguing and fighting just doesn’t interest you. You’ll walk away before you engage, but you’re not a pushover. You’re another intellectual sign, and you’ll find a way through the confrontation with a well aimed and often blunt truth that has the potential to disarm your adversary and leave them wondering just what happened.
When you can engage more with others rather than constantly remaining detached and independent, you’ll find that your loved ones really do have a lot to offer, even if it does make you a little bit uncomfortable to have to deal with all of that raw emotion.
You’re peace-loving by nature, and like all water signs, your emotions run deep. It’s all too easy for you to play the role of the victim, and to be a martyr to your cause if it gets you the attention you crave. You’re naturally imaginative, and will use those creative wiles to devise a means of playing on the feelings of others.
What you have to realize though is this only works up to a point. Once your loved ones realize that you’re manipulating them into being your enabler, they may withdraw their support. Take responsibility for your actions, and step out of your illusions into the real world.
You’ll find that there’s far more closeness and encouragement once you do, and after all, isn’t that what you really crave?
Even though it may be easier—perhaps even essential—to let the darker side of your Sun sign loose once in awhile, don’t make a habit of it. You’re a unique balance of light and dark, of positive and challenging traits.
Of course, the nuances of your Sun sign are just one facet of your personality. How the other planets dance around these characteristics is all part of what makes you who you are. If you’ve not had your full natal chart done, it’s a wonderful step to learning more about yourself and your potential.
After all, ‘know thyself’ is one of the greatest things you can master in life!
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