Your Relationship Style: Cancer

Posted on June 27, 2018

Cancer, you are the sensitive, gentle, and somewhat shy 4th sign of the Zodiac. Just like your crab counterpart, when you feel hurt or slighted, you crawl into your protective shell to heal your wounds and privately recover.

Cancer is a Cardinal sign, and in love and life, you are the initiator of the Zodiac. In love, you sometimes lack the necessary confidence to stand up for your convictions. With stubborn Fixed signs who dig their heels in, and adaptable Mutable signs who need freedom and variety to be happy, Cardinal signs will generally give in to keep the peace.

Cancer is ruled by the Moon, which is entirely appropriate for your sensitive and emotional personality. The Moon changes signs every 2-3 days, meaning its emotional state changes quite often. This could be why Cancer is sometimes described as moody!

You have a passive-aggressive streak like no other, and we should remember that just because you can be quiet, we shouldn’t mess with you! You’ll do what you can to avoid confrontation, which means you might shut people out, or show your anger by generally being a pain until you get the reaction you want. This can be difficult for your partners to deal with.

You have a protective streak unrivaled by most, and if someone comes for your loved ones, you are a fierce and serious force to be reckoned with. Here’s where some directness shows through - if you are fighting for someone, you’re much braver!

Cancer, what is your relationship style? When it comes to love, what could be holding you back? What has the capacity to help you achieve your greatest desires? We all have strengths and weaknesses, and they can both be used to our best advantage once we better understand them.

Let′s look at some of the pros and cons for Cancer when it comes to relationships and what inhibits you or set you apart in love and life. We′ll also check out your most and least likely compatibility with other signs.

Cancer Pros

  • You are intuitive and very sensitive.
  • You have a huge dedication to your family - you always put them first.
  • You are highly sympathetic - the nurturer of the Zodiac.
  • You are a true romantic and when you commit, you take it seriously.

Cancer Cons

  • You can take things way too personally.
  • You often don’t take care of yourself, because you’re worried about everyone else.
  • You can be shy when it comes to starting relationships.
  • It can be very hard to get to know you.

You crabs are quite good at hiding how you feel about people until you really trust them. You might put on a bit of an act when in front of people, but underneath, you’d probably rather be at home on the couch. It’s common for Cancer to have a protective layer around them until they feel they can trust someone, whether that’s a new friend or romantic interest.

Your sensitivity can work for or against you - on the positive side, your empathy puts you in a position to really understand the people around you, and they will love you more for it. On the negative side, if you don’t learn how to develop a shield around yourself, the words and actions of others can hurt you much more deeply than they need to.

A great partner for you will prove loyal and stable, helping you build the foundation of trust and security you need to feel confident. You don’t want a wild life; pouring your heart and soul into your home and your family is your motivation, and you do it better than most.

Let’s look at the signs that may be great matches for you!

Most Compatible - Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio/Pisces

Emotional Cancer will find the comfort and security they crave in solid Earth signs like Taurus and Virgo. While sensual Taurus is known to be an affectionate and thoughtful partner, they are not as good at communicating as the more reserved Virgo.

Trust and respect are of the utmost importance to all Earth signs though, so once they see you are a gentle and caring soul who only wants to protect and nurture your relationship, both Taurus and Virgo will open up to you and give you the loyalty you need to come out of your shell.

Fixed sign Taurus wants you to prove your love to them, and once they feel you have, they will not disappoint you. You want to keep a lovely home and they want to live in comfort. Mutable sign Virgo needs the freedom to do as they please, but seeks a stable foundation of honesty and loyalty as well. If you let them be free, they will reward you with security.

Your Water sign compatriots, mysterious Scorpio and creative Pisces, are also a good match for you, as you will understand the intense emotionality you all share. Be careful; sometimes too much of one characteristic can make for fireworks!

Fiesty Scorpio is the most controlled on the surface, they can boil like a tea kettle beneath, and are just as likely to explode on you as they are to shut you out and not explain why. Scorpio is intense, to be sure, but if they see you as the trustworthy and true person you are, they will protect and care for you like no other.

A Pisces/Cancer combination would be very romantic and loving, but both can be co-dependent and indecisive. Indulge in cuddles and a beautiful, harmonious home life, but you might be inclined to stay home and be hermits because neither of you may provide enough of a challenge to grow.

Least Compatible - Libra, Sagittarius, Aquarius

Air sign Libra’s sometimes superficiality may put off Cancer’s need to go deep in relationships. While Libra does crave a connection and hates to be alone, their flirtatious nature will likely be hurtful to sensitive Cancer. Cancer won’t understand why Libra needs attention from others when they have such a loving partner at home.

Fiery Sagittarius is known as one of the most blunt communicators in the Zodiac - it’s not that they don’t have a filter, more that they don’t worry about it. Truth is truth; why couch it in fancy words? Cancer wants to make their partner happy, but it might sting to hear exactly what’s on their mind so often, especially if it’s criticism. Archers tend to be positive, but it could still be too much.

While Aquarius is one of the more friendly signs, they aren’t known to demonstrate affection and love as Cancer might need them to. This Air sign is a lot of fun to be around, but they can be very flighty, as something new directs their attention away from you. Cancers do well with stability in their lives, and you are not likely to find that in Aquarius.


Just because you don′t seem to align with someone on paper doesn′t mean it won′t work out. When looking at the elements, Fire and Air signs tend to be more extroverted, while Earth and Water signs are more introverted. This can be very helpful in considering how people will get along in any kind of relationship, but it isn’t restrictive!

You need a fuller picture to really determine who you would work best with. There are many other factors to consider, including the rest of someone′s primal triad - their Moon sign and Rising sign. Having a birth chart done for both of you could definitely provide more insight into your compatibility!

The 7th house rules partnerships and will tell you how you communicate and feel about being in a relationship. For example, if you have Scorpio in your 7th house, you′ll need a partner who will appreciate brutal honesty, an intense sex life, and who will understand a wide, swinging range of emotional reactions.

You can try out Astrology Answers′ free love compatibility test here to get an initial idea of where you sit.

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